Five provocative questions answered by an inspiring and fabulous woman – a woman with something to say.
Meet Annmarie Kelly
Annmarie Kelly is an author, victory strategist, CEO of SkillBuilder Systems and founder of The Victorious Woman Project. She grew up in a middle class, Italian-Catholic family in suburban Philadelphia. Back then Annmarie was a “classic good girl” who felt invisible & insignificant in a family burdened with alcoholism, sibling abuse and mental illness. With firsthand knowledge of what it’s like to be down and out, Annmarie understands how challenging it is to pick yourself up and fight your way back. But she also knows that even the smallest shifts can positively change your life and how, when you claim your victory, the feeling is fabulous! Now she helps other women do the same.
People would be surprised to know that: I only get married for five years at a time.
The WTL 5:
What’s the conversation that changed your life?
While working with a client, she responded to something I said with, “Thoughts are things.” I didn’t understand that and asked her to explain. She wasn’t one for long conversations, but she opened a door for me. Then, in the company of wonderful teachers, I studied the works of Fillmore, Butterworth, Ponder and others. Gradually I stopped seeing myself as a victim who was at the mercy of the challenges of my life. Instead I came to realize I was strong and capable of overcoming the many personal, professional and financial challenges I faced. Those three words changed my life.
What are you most conscious of today?
The ways women are groomed to be dependent and accommodating (what I call victim and surviving lifestyles) instead of encouraged to advance into leadership. Unlike the man who steps into a power position and gets praise, a woman steps up and gets the “who does she think she is” treatment. Consider the firestorms that erupted when Sheryl Sandberg suggested that women should “lean in” and Marissa Mayer cancelled work-at-home days. Barracuda is only one of the “b” words people use to keep a woman “in her place.” How can women rise up as a group when we keep pulling down the ones who do?
What part of you have you yet to give voice to?
Good question! I feel so strongly that women need to take their SELF more seriously and honor the potential of their feminine power. I talk to so many women who aren’t in touch with the SELF that is “inside” but which is knocking on her soul’s door trying to get out. I’ve already given voice to that through my Victorious Woman work, but I want to expand the power and reach of my voice on that topic.
What’s the conversation women need to be having collectively?
Women have to figure out how to embrace and express feminine leadership. By that I mean, stepping into leadership without feeling like a fraud, incompetent or guilty. Also, acknowledging the leadership of other women, honoring them as role models. I think women are still not comfortable with themselves or other women as leaders. I think that has a lot to do with what happens when a woman demonstrates authority and influence. When men do it, they are called leaders. Women are called a variety of things. “Leader” isn’t one of them.
What needs to be said bigger, louder, stronger?
Dream big dreams and make them happen. Refuse to give into the fear of rejection, failure or success that keeps you tied to “less than” lives. You don’t have to do it perfect the first time. DO IT and, if it doesn’t work, figure out why, get better and do it again.
Victory isn’t about winning or achieving goals. It’s about have the courage to step out of your comfort zone and into that bigger, greater expression of who you really are. And victory doesn’t come and go the way goals do. Goals are temporary, but victory lasts forever.
Thank you, Annmarie, for sharing your powerful voice
with WomanTalk Live.