“People say jump in with both feet, she said. Personally I like to jump in with one foot, so I have the other available for a quick getaway.”
– StoryPeople by Brian Andreas, writer and artist
Sometimes I move with whippet-like speed. Other times, the slowest sloth could beat me in a race.
What brings out the whippet? Doing something I am 100% absolutely sure and excited about. No fear. No doubts. I am ready to GO! The times when I’ve felt this way? Leaving a small investment firm in Houston to join a well respected organization in that big city; making the decision to leave Houston several years later and move back east; leaving my corporate position several years after that move; saying “YES” to Bob; and moving to Vermont. All of these things excited me and spurred me on.
There were, however, times I was really looking forward to an anticipated change but moved like a sloth. Why was that? Because even though a change needed to be made and I knew it – the “divine discontent” had set in and was making itself known daily – there was still something I was holding onto. Maybe because of familiarity. Maybe because I was scared to take that final leap. Whatever the reason, I held on tight. I wasn’t sure the safety net would be there if I took that leap.
What’s strange is that these are all changes I wanted to make. They weren’t changes being forced on me as a result of happenstances that could upend my life. I’ve talked with plenty of women who were forced to make major life changes as a result of a health challenge, death of a spouse or other close family member, divorce, being let go from a job, and so on. These changes can often come up quickly and one is forced to move into action whether they feel ready or not.
So, what’s up with dragging my heels on changes I want to make? I’ve decided it’s the fear of letting go of the past even though it doesn’t “fit” any more. It’s as if I let go, then it’s gone for good. No one will remember. No one will care. And, I’ll have to be or do something else – like I have to prove myself all over again.
And then, wait a minute… like a big huge #wtf moment… “Are you nuts?, “ I say to myself. “One of the things you’ve always loved about making some drastic changes is that YOU get to be YOU – to slap on a fresh coat of paint or a new lipstick or a new way of living and try it out. YOU get to stretch and peer around the next curve in the road to see what happens. It’s all YOUR CHOICE!”
And then, I saw this quote:
“I don’t have anything to prove to anybody, which is a lovely place to be.”
– Edward Norton
And, that was enough of a push to make me make a move that I had put off for a year and a half – ever since we moved to Vermont.
This is going to sound so silly to some of you – maybe to all of you – but, it felt like a big deal to me. I needed to take down my old website – the one with all the stuff about my radio shows for seven years, sponsor articles, podcasts (which the old radio station silenced in the summer of 2014]. They weren’t relevant anymore and all of that info took up most of my website. They were the past – just like my twenty years of corporate work and my years of workshops and retreats. But, just like leaving my corporate job and corner office, letting go of all of that info was tough for me. But, when I saw that Edward Norton quote, it smacked me right in the face. At this time of my life – I do get to choose and there’s no proving to be done.
So, as of last week, the WomanTalk Live website has changed over to a blog where I’ll continue to share what’s On My Mind, along with informative guest articles, WomanTalk Live 5 features, Zen Frog Speaks, and announcements about the soon to be shared new version of the Girls Gone Great Scholarship Essay Contest. Still conscious conversations – only in written form. And, if you like, you can subscribe to receive new blog postings by email – find that in the right sidebar.
So, one more leap done. However, life being life, I’m sure there will be more showing up. My strategy – Just roll with ‘em.
Ok, your turn. How easy do you make changes? What process do you go through? When do you know it’s time to get it done? I know your thoughts and wisdom will give some strength to others.
“Let today be the day you learn the grace of letting go and the power of moving on.”
– Steve Maraboli
Artwork: Daybreak by Bruce Holwerda