On My Mind: Using Our Voices – How and for What?

Just in the past two weeks, I’ve had the opportunity to spend some face-to-face time with some amazing women who walk their talk and make whatever space they are in a more conscious, respectful and compassionate place.

The concept of “using our voice” has been a part of all of the conversations I’ve had with them because each of us encourage women to find their voices and use them to create a better life for themselves and ultimately, a better world.  By using our voice, we make our desires known, we provide our children with strong role models, we get things done, we stand up for important causes, and we encourage other women to do the same.

Unfortunately, as with all things, we need to have filters in place.  Does using our voice mean we should say anything we feel just because that’s how we are feeling?  Does using our voice mean we “vomit” whatever is going on in our life to anyone within hearing distance?  Does using our voice mean we monopolize a conversation because we have something to say?  Does using our voice mean we have to gripe out loud to the world about every social injustice we perceive to be directed at us?

I think not.

One of the women I met with reminded me of a quote that she tries to hold herself to most of the time, feeling it gives good guidance for when to talk, what to say:

“Before you speak, ask yourself: is it kind, is it true, is it necessary, does it improve upon the silence?” – Shirdi Sai Baba

Boy howdy, I know that when I ask myself those questions, I’ll be much more thoughtful about what I say, what I write and what I share on social media.  And, if I really need to blow off some steam?  I know just who to call that understands when I need a sounding board.

So, if I seem a little more quiet (I know, for real, huh?)… I’m contemplating.

What about you?  What does “using your voice” mean to you?